I will be the first to admit that I go through this analytical process all the time, especially with people of romantic interest. Come on, if I don't want to knock boots with you at some point, then why are we dating? Sex isn't everything, but it's integral.
Some men in the dating portals like to help women out with this visualization by removing the guesswork. Observe:
I try to preserve anonymity to a certain degree, but this guy above is one that I really wish I didn't black out. He has some of the craziest eyes I've ever seen. If you'd like a good comparison, look up "Crazy Eyes" from the Netflix show "Orange Is the New Black." Picture those eyes on this guy and you'll get the full effect, but I digress.
The photo on the left is this guy with his shirt on. The photo on the right is this guy with his shirt off. Wow. What a hunk? This side-by-side that he posted communicates two things: (1) he wants you to see him naked and (2) he's ready to go.
"But wait!" you chime. "His profile says he is looking for a sweet girl!" Ah, let me go raise the Bull Shit Flag. Any man who is looking for a quality woman does not put it out there like that, just like a quality woman does not put it out there for a man so quickly.
Let's check out our next example:
Okay, I'll admit that when I got a message from this guy, all I could think about was sex. As you can see in the picture, mercury is certainly rising and in the best way. This guy would make a great romp, but that's all he is looking for - a romp. For the singleton who wants to get her rocks off, this guy is a fantastic choice because he does not want commitment and will give you sex without giving you drama.
If a man who posts a shirtless or otherwise provocative photo says he wants commitment, excuse yourself and go raise the Bull Shit Flag. That line is additional ploy to keep you around longer. There's nothing wrong with a good romp, but remember this: people create their profiles and post their photos based on who they are and what they want for that time. If you're getting mixed signals when you're looking for something serious, move on. If you don't care, then play a bit, but don't get involved for more than a day or two. Enter any situation with both eyes open, but don't be Crazy Eyes.
If a man is stripping down for you before you've even met, then he's looking for a romp. If he's looking for a romp, you can either rock the bed with him or roll on out.
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